Written by R. D. Balsa Wednesday, 04 April 2012 00:00
The one mainstream LGBT issue that is often dwarfed by gay marriage is the matter of gay adoption. Livescience.com published an article last month detailing the many reasons gay parents make excellent parents more often than not. In the article, psychologist Abbie Goldberg reveals that gay parents "tend to be more motivated, more committed than heterosexual parents on average, because they chose to be parents.” Further research confirms that the children of gay parents “show few differences in achievement, mental health, social functioning and other measures.” In fact these children may have the advantage of open-mindedness and tolerance. And here's the kicker: a report by the highly reputable Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute affirmed the fact that gay parents have a high propensity to adopt older children, the most difficult population to place in good homes.
So, allow me to summarize: gay parents are just as successful (if not more) because they made a conscious decision to love, educate, and nurture that child; children raised by same sex couples are just as stable and tend to be more tolerant of others; and gays who adopt are statistically more likely to adopt the neediest children. When you consider the overwhelming benefits to permitting and encouraging same sex couples to adopt, it begs the question: why is this even an issue in this day and age? The fact is that there are so many benefits to gay adoption, so many positives, and it makes so much common sense that any argument against it can only be the result of unprecedented ignorance. Florida is the most recent state to overturn its ban on gay adoption, deeming the ban unconstitutional. However, three states (Arkansas, Mississippi, and Utah) still prohibit gay men and women in committed relationships to adopt children.
The argument against gay couples adopting has always had a religious undertone. Many of those who label gay parents as unfit do so because of their religious beliefs. In essence, these men and women are promoting a world where a needy child should be lost among the bloated numbers of the foster system and/or passed from random home to random home instead of being placed in one, stable, home with a loving couple. They would prefer that child grow up with no consistent role models, failing to receive regular guidance, comfort or love; all of it while developing an inevitable sense of being 'unwanted'. I defy anyone reading this to find any traces of Christianity (or humanity for that matter) in that frame of mind.
The good news is this: there are only three states left. We have, indeed come a long way and I trust that five years from now, the entire country will be united on this issue. America has always been a country that takes its time but eventually does what is considered, by those with a moral conscience, to be the right thing. I have no reason to believe the many political and social decisions involving the gay community will fare any differently. And as I further embed myself into the South Florida gay community, I am happy to report that I see more and more gay couples (most of whom are Latinos) with baby strollers and milk bottles in tow. As I pass them, I cannot help but feel an awe-inspiring sense of pride, of joy, and, if any of these new parents are channeling their Latino mothers, a little pity for that poor over-protected child.
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